It is a life of great joy and sometimes extreme despondency (and everything in between!) for those of us who are deeply spiritual, sensitive, intuitive, and empathic. My focus is all about personal/spiritual evolution on all dimensions, particularly the dimension that seems to be “in my face” at the moment.
Since all we have is this moment, in truth, we are faced with innumerable choices throughout the day. As spiritual beings on an earthly sojourn, we have energetic density, polarity, ego, feelings of every variety, planetary shifts, tragic events, families, jobs and many apparent “issues” to deal with at any given moment.
The wallpaper of life is thought. It is always there, seemingly endless. Thoughts also create choices, because when we are aware of them sometimes we find that they need to change if we are to feel peaceful and comfortable in our own skins.
So, what happens when in this moment we are loving our Oneness with the Universe, asking for Divine Guidance, providing ourselves with the best self-care we can accomplish, and yet also feeling overwhelmed with life issues, lack focus, can’t navigate through our own thinking, or having strong emotion? In this moment, what is the best choice? Do we sit with and simply allow the emotions first, address the “issue”, set a boundary, or just let go of the whole thing?
Sometimes we may decide to divert the inevitable by choosing an avoidance technique, or give in to old, comforting behaviors that are questionable at best. We sense that complete surrender to the Divine is what is needed, but just how can we achieve that? Discernment is sometimes difficult during “overload”. These are the moments when we wish we could just shut off the mind and fly to a deserted island!
But we know already that wherever we go, there we are.
Thus, the work must be done. Spiritual practices and discipline, watching and changing thought, holistic mind/body/spirit care, proper rest and nutrition are essential. When already overwhelmed, we sometimes can’t seem to get to it all, and we have to prioritize. Yet more choices!
Being social creatures by nature, it is most common to reach out for help. So, we are faced with another choice: who do we reach out to when there are just too many decisions to make on our own? This can be difficult. As sensitives, we may not want to “bother” people who are in the same boat, so to speak. We are acutely aware, often clairsentient, with those around us. We run down our list of “go to” people. A parent, best friend, spiritual colleague, mentor, life coach, clergy, therapist, someone from a support group are often top on our list.
If we are discerning and have clarity, we choose a person we totally trust who can remain open-minded, compassionately detached, and unconditionally committed to our wellness as we sort through all these choices. Sometimes we need a special person to help to create a Wellness plan for the challenging moment we are facing.
Oh, but what do we do with those underlying and insidious beliefs that are not even true? Underneath our rational thinking and behind our attempts at reaching out with discernment, there may be another “tape” playing. A tape with ingrained, neurologically hard-wired responses to stress. This tape was created before the age of reason, thoughts and responses that were put upon us by any number of people in the societal groups we were part of early in life. These are called “schema” in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Examples of such schema might be “I’m not good enough”, “No one wants to listen to me”, “I’m not worthy of attention”, “I can’t let anyone know how bad, crazy, stupid (add your adjective here!) I really am” and so many more.
These schema drive us when our vulnerabilities are triggered. A sad fact is that some people attempt to raise their own vibration or self-worth by bringing someone else down. When our schema are triggered, we might just pick someone who will prove the schema to be correct. Humans are wired to conspire with the Universe to create whatever we “believe” to be true. So when faced with the need to sort things out at a time when our schema are at the helm, instead we may find that we choose someone who uses language or energy to bash us or punish us. We recreate scenarios reflective of past events that match how we are feeling at the time.
When this happens, we must forgive ourselves. These are lessons in “choosing differently”. Until the schema are completely released to God, The Universe, the Angels, or the Ascended Masters, we will continue to set ourselves up during times of stress and overload. Little by little, we learn to make better choices in each moment. We learn who is truly helpful and who may not be for any given situation. We choose to accept that we need help, ask for that help, and trust that God/dess, Universal Love (or whatever you believe the unconditionally Loving force to be) is always there, ready to receive and transmute that which we surrender.
Over time, we recognize the light-filled souls with whom we resonate. We no longer set ourselves up for bashing. We learn that in each moment, there are always healthy choices. We learn that even if in one moment our choice is less than helpful, we can choose differently the next time!
Healing and inner peace are processes, not destinations. We all take many steps forward, then a few steps back in cycles throughout our lives. We are all works in progress. Know that you are loved, lovable and loving! We are all supported and cared for 100% of the time, even when we can’t “see” or “feel” it.
Lastly, when someone reaches out for your help, remember that you too have times of spiritual and emotional fragility, and treat others the way you would wish to be treated. Judgementalism, emotionalism, gossiping, tearing others down to make yourself feel better, and not acting with the knowing that we are all progressing (just on different time frames) can be very hurtful. If you can’t help another sojourner, please try not to hurt them.
But if you do, make amends, forgive yourself, and let it all go! LOVE IS ALWAYS THE VICTOR!